When I argue with my teenager, I go away and silently use this practice. It changes the energy around us and I get a new perspective. It also reminds me that although they may seem to be grown up, they are still trying to find their boundaries and they will try and extend these with those they feel safest with.
For some reason this works. It’s called Ho’ oponoopono and is a Pacific Islander practice that results in reconciliation.
Note you are not saying it to your teenager or saying it for a specific reason. It is a meditative practice – just repeat the 4 lines over and over again.
Used by priests and Kahuna’s to heal sicknesses that is believed to be caused by arguments and fights – this is magically transforming.
Every time I use it after a rift with someone, everything just flows, whether I apologize to them or not.
the words are:
I am sorry
Please forgive me
I love you
The below video is a lovely rendition of it.