Giving up your story and freeing yourself


So many of us hang onto our story, e.g., “my first husband beat me up”,  “my stepfather raped me”, as if it defines us.

Who would you be if you gave that up.

What could you be if you gave up the idea that you are shy or scared or have low self-esteem. Most of which has become beliefs we hold dear because we have repeated it over and over to ourselves and others. Instead for the next 3 weeks resist them temptation to tell anyone about what happened to you in the past. If you must speak about yourself, talk about the new you are creating right now.

Wayne Dyer draws a wonderful metaphor with the wake of a boat – The wake being your story and your past which you have left behind. The wake does not drive the boat, you do. Neither does your story drive you. The wake is only what is in the  past so let it go.

Put your energy on moving forward and creating a new reality.

Much love Sofia.

5 Critical things successful dieters do that keep the weight off

Researchers Sumithran, Priya and Proietto, Joseph in the Clinical Science journal article “The defence of body weight: a physiological basis for weight regain after weight loss”  summarise the 5 strategies for successful weight loss maintenance.

Despite life throwing the most temping foods our way and with constant temptation there are those who lose weight and more significantly KEEP IT OFF.

This data comes from the  National Weight Control Registry, The data consists of 4000 adults in the U.S.A., who have kept weight losses of at least 13.6 kg (30 lb) for at least 1 year.

Those who have reported the successful weight maintenance strategies  have lost an average of 30 kg, and have maintained the minimum 13.6 kg weight loss for an average of 5.5 years.

Most of them lost weight because of a medical or highly emotional event in their lives.

They are mostly white (97%) and women (80%)  are recruited via newspaper and magazine advertisements note that the data is self reported.

Okay here are their strategies:

  1.  Eating a low-calorie low-fat diet with minimal variation like the Source Diet . They ate  a mean of 1306 (women) to 1685 (men) kcal/day, with <25% of calories coming from fat. They do keep their food variation the same without change on weekends or holidays. Those who do not are more likely to regain weight
  2. Eating breakfast every day (78%) .
  3. Frequent self-monitoring. 78% of the successful weightloss maintainers weigh themselves at least once a week, and 50% count calories or grams of fat.
  4. Undertaking regular exercise (91 %), equivalent to walking 45 km (28 miles)/week or around 1 h/day of moderately intense activity [136]. They spend more time engaged in physical activity, particularly in high-intensity activity, than people who are stable at their baseline weight, whether lean or obese
  5. Limiting television viewing. A total of 62% report watching television for fewer than 10 h/week compared with the national reported U.S.A. average of 28 h

Well there you have it – simple and effective way to keep it off.

regards Sophia



If you think you are old – you are!

Browsing, I came across this fabulous quote that sums aging and beliefs systems up for me –

Of all the self-fulfilling prophecies in our culture, the assumption that aging means decline and poor health is probably the deadliest.

Marilyn Ferguson, The Aquarian Conspiracy, 1980

Research has shown that as soon as you think you are middle-age your cells respond and the immediately start to decline. Consider the famous work of Dr Masaru Emoto and his pictures of the effect of thoughts on the molecular structure of water – considering that our bodies are over 70% of water, our thought and beliefs would have the same effect on our bodies.

Consider these (courtesy of Dr Masaru Emoto) – You can read more about these in the Hidden Messages of Water. His later book The True Power of Water: Healing and Discovering Ourselves is life changing

old thoughts make you old

But consider what the effect of thoughts of “Gratitude” has. Think what thoughts of “I am healthy” or “I am vibrant” could have on your cells instead of “I am getting old” or “I am old”

love-and-gratitude thoughts

To your new possibility – Sofia