Do you get angry after hearing someone chew or swallow?

misophonia chewing swallowing

This is commonly known as Sound Rage and is yet to be classified disorder called Misophonia. For some it is so extreme they are unable to sit at the same table with loved ones. When they hear the sound that “annoys” them, the so called trigger sound they experience an immense rush of anger and disgust, often requiring great restraint to control the need to physically hit something.

Ironically, the people who develop extreme levels of Misophonia are usually quite mild mannered and sensitive by nature. It is their very sensitivity that is part of the acquiring this debilitating disorder. The problems starts normally around 11 in the teenage years and often gets worse. Initially it is just one person who doing the chewing, tapping or swallowing etc. that annoys them but as time goes on the sounds gets generalised to others as well as to other sounds. Most Doctors don’t even know that this disorder exists, so go to a place that has experience in treating Sound Rage. If they offer you exposure therapy, refuse as this makes it worse.  Experienced Clinical Psychologists offer a combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, neural re-patterning and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy like at EMDR Therapy Sydney.

I know this because the 32 year old son of a close friend of mine got treated and although it is still early days for the first time there is hope as for the first time he can tolerate being at the same table as his wife and kids.

Their is a good book on this if you want to gain more understanding:



Giving up your story and freeing yourself


So many of us hang onto our story, e.g., “my first husband beat me up”,  “my stepfather raped me”, as if it defines us.

Who would you be if you gave that up.

What could you be if you gave up the idea that you are shy or scared or have low self-esteem. Most of which has become beliefs we hold dear because we have repeated it over and over to ourselves and others. Instead for the next 3 weeks resist them temptation to tell anyone about what happened to you in the past. If you must speak about yourself, talk about the new you are creating right now.

Wayne Dyer draws a wonderful metaphor with the wake of a boat – The wake being your story and your past which you have left behind. The wake does not drive the boat, you do. Neither does your story drive you. The wake is only what is in the  past so let it go.

Put your energy on moving forward and creating a new reality.

Much love Sofia.

5 Critical things successful dieters do that keep the weight off

Researchers Sumithran, Priya and Proietto, Joseph in the Clinical Science journal article “The defence of body weight: a physiological basis for weight regain after weight loss”  summarise the 5 strategies for successful weight loss maintenance.

Despite life throwing the most temping foods our way and with constant temptation there are those who lose weight and more significantly KEEP IT OFF.

This data comes from the  National Weight Control Registry, The data consists of 4000 adults in the U.S.A., who have kept weight losses of at least 13.6 kg (30 lb) for at least 1 year.

Those who have reported the successful weight maintenance strategies  have lost an average of 30 kg, and have maintained the minimum 13.6 kg weight loss for an average of 5.5 years.

Most of them lost weight because of a medical or highly emotional event in their lives.

They are mostly white (97%) and women (80%)  are recruited via newspaper and magazine advertisements note that the data is self reported.

Okay here are their strategies:

  1.  Eating a low-calorie low-fat diet with minimal variation like the Source Diet . They ate  a mean of 1306 (women) to 1685 (men) kcal/day, with <25% of calories coming from fat. They do keep their food variation the same without change on weekends or holidays. Those who do not are more likely to regain weight
  2. Eating breakfast every day (78%) .
  3. Frequent self-monitoring. 78% of the successful weightloss maintainers weigh themselves at least once a week, and 50% count calories or grams of fat.
  4. Undertaking regular exercise (91 %), equivalent to walking 45 km (28 miles)/week or around 1 h/day of moderately intense activity [136]. They spend more time engaged in physical activity, particularly in high-intensity activity, than people who are stable at their baseline weight, whether lean or obese
  5. Limiting television viewing. A total of 62% report watching television for fewer than 10 h/week compared with the national reported U.S.A. average of 28 h

Well there you have it – simple and effective way to keep it off.

regards Sophia



Cooking Tips – Martha Stewart versus Reality


 Martha Stewart Cooking TipsTo keep potatoes from budding,
place an apple in the bag with the potatoes.
Reality cooking Tips
Buy Smash mashed potato mix.
Keeps in the cupboard for up to a year.
 Martha Stewart Cooking TipsWhen a cake recipe calls for flouring
the baking tin, use a bit of dry cake
mix instead and there won’t be any
white mess on the outside of the cake.
Reality cooking Tips
Go to the bakery!
Hell, they’ll even decorate it for you!
 Martha Stewart Cooking TipsWrap celery in aluminium foil when putting
in the refrigerator and it will keep for weeks.
Reality cooking Tips
Never heard of it!
 Martha Stewart Cooking TipsCure for headaches: take a lime, cut it in half and
rub it on your forehead. The throbbing will go away.
Reality cooking Tips
Take a lime, mix it with tequila,
chill and drink! All your pains go away!
 Martha Stewart Cooking TipsDon’t throw out all that leftover wine.
Freeze into ice cubes for future use
in casseroles and sauces.
Reality cooking Tips
Leftover wine??????? 

Lastly, if you don’t click on one of the pictures in the next 5 minutes,

your belly button will unscrew and your bum will fall off.


I love it frog recipes



If you think you are old – you are!

Browsing, I came across this fabulous quote that sums aging and beliefs systems up for me –

Of all the self-fulfilling prophecies in our culture, the assumption that aging means decline and poor health is probably the deadliest.

Marilyn Ferguson, The Aquarian Conspiracy, 1980

Research has shown that as soon as you think you are middle-age your cells respond and the immediately start to decline. Consider the famous work of Dr Masaru Emoto and his pictures of the effect of thoughts on the molecular structure of water – considering that our bodies are over 70% of water, our thought and beliefs would have the same effect on our bodies.

Consider these (courtesy of Dr Masaru Emoto) – You can read more about these in the Hidden Messages of Water. His later book The True Power of Water: Healing and Discovering Ourselves is life changing

old thoughts make you old

But consider what the effect of thoughts of “Gratitude” has. Think what thoughts of “I am healthy” or “I am vibrant” could have on your cells instead of “I am getting old” or “I am old”

love-and-gratitude thoughts

To your new possibility – Sofia

39 things you should know ….

1. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

2. Don’t worry about what people think, they don’t do it very often.

3. Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian anymore than standing in a garage makes you a car.

4. Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.

5. If you must choose between two evils, pick the one you’ve never tried before.

6. My idea of housework is to sweep the room with a glance.

7. Not one shred of evidence supports the notion that life is serious.

8. It is easier to get forgiveness than permission.

9. For every action, there is an equal and opposite government program.

10. If you look like your passport picture, you probably need the trip.

11. Bills travel through the mail at twice the speed of cheques.

12. A conscience is what hurts when all of your other parts feel so good.

13. Eat well, stay fit, die anyway.

14. Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it.

15. No man has ever been shot while doing the dishes.

16. A balanced diet is a biscuit in each hand.

17. Middle age is when broadness of the mind and narrowness of the waist change places.

18. Opportunities always look bigger going than coming.

19. Junk is something you’ve kept for years and throw away three weeks before you need it.

20. There is always one more imbecile than you counted on.

21. Experience is a wonderful thing. It enables you to recognise a mistake when you make it again.

22. By the time you can make ends meet, they move the ends.

23. Thou shalt not weigh more than thy fridge.

24. Someone who thinks logically provides a nice contrast to the real world.

25. It’s not the jeans that make your bum look fat.

26. If you had to identify, in 1 word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, & never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be “meetings”.

27. There is a very fine line between “hobby” and “mental illness”.

28. People who want to share their religious views with you almost never want you to share yours with them.

29. You should not confuse your career with your life.

30. Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.

31. Never lick a steak knife.

32. The most destructive force in the universe is gossip.

33. You will never find anybody who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we put the clocks back.

34. You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she’s pregnant unless you can see an actual

baby emerging from her at that moment.

35. There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is age eleven.

36. The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status or ethnic background, is that, deep

down inside, we ALL believe that we are above average drivers.

37. A person, who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.

38. Your friends love you anyway.

39 . Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic.

Chocolate that soothes and satisfies the soul

The guilty crackle of the rich brown wax paper, fingers furtively feeling for that fourth soft piece, the sniff of the sweet forbidden, the slight salty tang before the melting chocolate floods your tongue, climaxing in a sweet caramel hit, finishing with a soft nutty chew. Ah.., Coco Chocolate we salute you! Your chocolate creations soothe the soul.

Will they have some more Caramel, pinenut and seasalt organic milk chocolate when I go there next week ( trying to discipline myself to a 70gram indulgence a week) or should I go today in case they run out (knowing I will not be able to resist eating it immediately) it sells so fast – oh what to do?